This week I spoke to the lovely Keisha Bloise, Scientist and Creator. Our conversation was centered around the importance of self love and self care. Why is it so important to make sure we heal from past trauma and experiences that affect us?
I was thinking about what gets classified as trauma, and why we need to do the healing work and be intentional about it. So much gets missed doesn't it? I was talking to a friend yesterday about the relationships she has had and how she's beginning to realize how it affects her present mindset. The way she views love, the way she believes she needs love and even what becomes acceptable and not acceptable within a relationship. When do we decide it's ok to forgive versus walk away?
"Things that initially appear to be "small things," become big later in life."
The point of this is, that things that initially appear to be "small things," become big later in life. The behaviours and beliefs we don't decode and think about, show up time and time again. And if we don't do the intentional healing work at the time we really need it, it shows up in our experiences. The experiences may look different, but the lesson is the same.
How many times do you find yourself in a cycle that looks different but feels the same? For me I know whenever I reflect and recognize that, it's that inner voice, it's God telling me, I need to figure out my shit! There is something I am not dealing with. There is a lesson I haven't learnt. And it's my job to take responsibility and figure it out. That is what being intentional about our healing is really about.
"With the increased awareness of the importance of taking care of our mental health, I am sure you agree that seeking help is a form of self care. "
And this doesn't mean we need to do it alone. There are coaches and therapists and wonderful professionals to assist us in this process. If we don't feel safe sharing our thoughts and experiences with friends and family, or even if we do, but need that further help with healing, it is available. With the increased awareness of the importance of taking care of our mental health, I am sure you agree that seeking help is a form of self care.
Keisha touches upon her experience of losing her Mother and how she was able to process it. While affirmations may not be everyone's cup of tea, the act of talking to yourself and simply telling yourself "YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE IT," can change the trajectory of your healing. The subconscious thoughts we plant on a daily basis matter. So we need to do whatever it is we need to figure out what works for us. And for everyone this is different.
"The subconscious thoughts we plant on a daily basis matter."
I like to reflect and journal at the end of every week, not just to remind myself of what is left to do, but also what I managed to get done. I can give myself a chance to process any feelings that have come up that week and ask myself how I'm feeling in that present moment. What is working and what do I feel is lacking if anything? And if those self defeating thoughts do arise (which is often the case) how do I turn that around? What do I tell myself at that moment? Because ultimately this is the crucial moment!
Everyday YOU have the opportunity to tell yourself "I AM ENOUGH," that you can move through whatever it is you are going through and there is, as idealistic as it sounds, light at the end of the tunnel. And a day we don't do this, is a day we give other people and society the opportunity to tell us who we are and what we can and cannot do. Let's make the commitment to being intentional. It starts NOW!